What is your message to someone who is thinking about suicide?
You may find it hard to believe right now, but you do matter. Your presence makes a difference, even if it's hard to see this at this moment. The world is better with you in it, and I care about you. You don't have to go through this alone.
What would you tell someone who is feeling unsure about seeking support?
It's normal to feel unsure about reaching out for support. Feeling vulnerable is scary, and leads to uncertainty. Reaching out is not a sign of weakness, but a healthy first step in the right direction to new possibilities.
Why does suicide prevention matter to you?
Suicidal thoughts come and go, often in waves. These thoughts are overwhelming, stir up feelings of uncertainty, hopelessness and clouds judgement. Suicide prevention matters because it helps by getting that person through the tough moments. It gives them time and space to sense relief and experience healing.
Why is connection such an important element for suicide prevention?
"Not mattering" stems from a lack of connection. It is this lack of connection that leads to isolation and a feeling of hopelessness. "Not mattering" is felt to fuel thoughts of suicide. The feeling of "mattering" is fostered by connection, a powerful protector which helps to break isolation and reminds us that we are not alone in whatever pain we are feeling. Connection also helps to facilitate a sense of belonging that in turn reduces the sense of "being a burden" that is so commonly felt by those contemplating suicide. Connection also helps by offering perspective, providing validation, and support from people we trust and have built a relationship with. Moreover, it provides a layer of safety, monitoring for warning signs, and bringing professional help when needed. Lastly, these connections, or relationships renew a sense of meaning and purpose, an important step in the healing process.
What is something simple that you think each person – regardless of being a student, staff, or faculty member – can do to support suicide prevention and further compassion and care within our campus community?
Fostering an attitude promoting a psychological safe space for students, staff, and faculty that promotes choosing compassion for ourselves, and for each other.
How do you cope when things get tough?
Mental health challenges know no boundaries. No one person is immune. Knowing this and that we have a safety net of resources helps insulate us in our mental health. This conceptual tool-box helps us remember we are never alone in our struggles and helps us understand that reaching out is a sign of strength. For me, and when I am struggling and second guessing, I have always found strength, love and support from my family, my good friends, and my faith. Sports and music have always been a big stress reliever for me. Even just going for a walk helps to de-clutter my mind to see things more clearly and simplify. The simpler the better.